Judgmental People

"Let's all have a round of applause for all the perfect people out there. The people who judge other people because they don't have any flaws at all."

Okay- so this is what gets me- If you don't understand someone, or you don't know them at all, and if they have NEVER done anything to you... Who the hell are you to go ahead and judge that person?
This morning, I had a major fall out between a friend and myself because he gave me an ultimatum to choose between himself and another friend of mine- both who I am very close to. He doesn't know my other friend at all, and was simply just giving me the ultimatum because he felt that he "didn't like" this person.
Now the problem is that I shouldn't have to choose, and because I told him this he told me never to talk to him again. That's fine by me.

At the time I was talking to his Girlfriend. She and I are pretty close- and I sent her one of the messages he'd sent me- the one about me never being allowed to talk to him again- and she overreacted saying that she thought it looked like he didn't want to be the "best friend anymore, instead, he wants to be the boyfriend" and so he texted me, saying that if he loses her as his girlfriend he will kill himself, because he'd "already lost everyone he's ever loved".

Now not only was this childish, it was a pathetic and a useless attempt to get me to choose him over my other friend.  And I don't do well with manipulation- as you know with one of my previous blog posts.

This is what I have to say on the situation:

1. Manipulation is a disgusting attempt at making people do what you want. It's selfish and childish.
2. Using suicide as a manipulation scheme is disgusting- because there are people out there with real        problems, and teen suicide is a real thing- so DON'T! 
3. Get the hell out of my life if you're going to give me ultimatums- I don't need to choose. 
4. I don't need the manipulation, so I'm done with being your friend.

Don't EVER let ANYONE judge or manipulate you into doing what they want. Remember that you are much better than that- and whatever anyone else says doesn't matter. What other people think of you and your choices is none of your business. If you are happy with the way you are living- stick to living that way, get rid of the negative influences.

If you have anything to add, please feel free to leave your comments below!!

xo'xo

The Glitch

Top Ten Hates while arguing.

Ten things not to do when arguing

So this is something from my old blog- Lee and Meg... I don't use that one anymore, but I particularly like this post because the advice on arguing I've given here is what I use when I argue with someone.

There are just some things that are okay and not okay when arguing with a special friend, boyfriend, best friend or family member, and I for one absolutely HATE arguing! Not only because it hurts a relationship, but because it emotionally hurts the other person, and also can get very annoying at times, so tonight I decided I want to blog about the ten worst things I can think of when it comes to arguments, so here it goes:

• "Are you on your period?"  So, This one goes out to boys specifically (sorry boys, but it's true). There is a HUGE difference between anger and being on our period! Sure,  when we're on that awful time of month we do become a little bit cranky, but that's just for about 3-7 days, the rest of the month we're fine- and when we're angry, it doesn't mean we are on our period- it means we are angry. Asking something like "are you on your period" is a pathetic excuse to avoid an argument and can make a girl even more angry. Unless you have physically seen me opening up a pad, don't ask me if I'm on my period.
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• "Whatever" In a situation where arguing is involved, saying something like "whatever" is bound to make someone even angrier, and I know that I for one Hate it when someone says "whatever" while I'm trying to get my point across. Like all humans, we all want to know that the person we are talking to is interested in what we are saying, because it gives us a sense of worth, and if they don't want to hear what you are saying, and are not interested in the conversation, what are they doing in yourlife? Clearly the relationship isn't worth it.

• "Just drop it" NO! Do NOT drop the subject! I can promise you that will not help ANYTHING. If one side brought up a subject obviously it was brought up for a reason so SORT IT OUT. Rather now than have it blowing up in your face later on, yes?

• People who Ramble Hey! Whoa! Slow down! Just remember, there are two people in this argument- give the other person a chance to speak too! Their side is just as important as yours is.

• An arrogant attitude No one likes a person who thinks too much of themselves, especially when you're busy arguing. So stop being cocky and start listening to what the other person has to say before putting yourself first- not only will this calm the situation down by showing the other person that you are willing to hear them out, but it will also make you less uptight.

• "I don't like you"  "well if you don't like me, LEAVE!" Need I say more?

• "You seem angry" Okay, now first of all... If I wasn't just a liiiittttllleee bit mad- we wouldn't be having this discussion, but as soon as a person tells me that I'm angry- I am bound to get angry, because not only have you just reminded me that I'm angry, but your calm, cocky question has just made me want to hit you in the face multiple times, and then still set my cat on you. Really, "You seem angry" ? not a good call, my friend. Rather say "is there something bothering you?" (still not a good one because by now they've probably already told you about the situation) or "well what can I do to help fix the situation?" (much better, because that tells the person that you are willing to help)

• The whole world doesn't need to know you're arguing! Yes, it is nice to have support when you're going through a rough patch, but puttingyour status messages as comebacks to an argument, or writing on a person's Facebook wall about how much you hate them certainly is not the best idea of the day. Firstly- it makes you look like a pathetic attention seeker who is a complete asshole, and secondly- it embarrasses the other person very badly and will most definitely hurt their feelings. You're having an argument with that person- not an argument with that person and the whole world.

• Yelling "STOP YELLING! IS THIS PLEASANT TO READ?" I thought not. Listen, you're in the same room as that person, why do you need to yell at them? It's not like being angry has made them deaf- you're making them deaf by yelling at them, and not only that- you're boosting your adrenaline which makes you much more excited. This makes you seem aggressive and the other person will respond in the same way and this is what makes most arguments blow up in punches and cat-fights and shouting matches.

and lastly:

• taking words out of context A person isn't going to hide information in their words. They will say what they mean so don't put words in their mouths! That is definitely one of the things I hate the most when I'm arguing with someone.

So there you have it folks! The top ten pet hates when it comes to arguing! So the next time you're in an argument- think back on this blog, and see if you're doing what the other person might hate. Leave your comments below about what you hate when arguing! I'd really like some feedback!

Irony

So I'm sick, and I was bored and I decided to look up some things on Youtube... and this Vlog came up about Fat Shaming...

Fat Shaming Week- was a trend that took place.. I don't know- a couple months ago? Yeah, sure- but I've never actually thought about it until now- and my reaction to this is- "who the hell are you to tell someone to go away until they're 'publicly acceptable'"? You don't know if that person has a medical condition- but suddenly it's FUNNY to post something on Facebook just for the 'lol's' ?

And it's not only with Fat Shaming! It's with things  like hairstyles, or skin color and even gender inequality, the way people speak and act and live their lives...
Just because someone looks different and acts differently to what you find 'acceptable' doesn't mean that you have the right to judge them.

What I find ironic about all of this is that we live in a world where everyone is like "Just accept yourself" and "don't let people put you down" but then I hear shit like this? About how these very same people can go and put a person down to the extent that they just don't think that they're worth anything?

If you can go and publicly disgrace someone, and destroy their dignity and everything that they've been trying to achieve- that simply means that you are unhappy in your own life and need to take a look at yourself and fix yourself first.

I don't know about you- but I think if everyone could be less hypocritical and just accept other people for who they are- this world would be a better place.
That is all.

xo'xo
The Glitch

Bullying

Here's a quick exercise for you- get a friend, and each of you need to write down something you like about yourself and then you must give the paper to your friend. Now, crumple up the piece of paper given to that person, and try and straighten it.
The result is- you can never get that piece of paper into the same state that you first gave it away in.

Now ask yourself: "What is victimization?"
Victimization is when someone takes a person and sees a "weakness" in them, and uses that person's weakness to make that person feel inferior, either physically or emotionally. A good simile for "victimization" is "bullying". Plain and simple- let's just get it out there- as soon as you pick on someone and make them feel like they are inferior- you become a bully.

There is a theory is that states that every emotion has a base emotion of either love, or fear. I can tell you right now that a bully definitely does NOT act out of love.

So- the person who is victimizing the other person is acting on fear plus a different negative emotion.

The reason I'm writing this- is because I'm feeling really strongly about the topic, because of the situation I am in at the moment.

For all of you people being bullied out there- here's something that I hope will help you.

Firstly- we need to understand that bullies are people too, and no- you DON'T always have to like everyone you come across, but you need to tolerate them.

Secondly- we need to realize that this person is "sick". Not physically, but emotionally something is bothering them- and to a degree, we all have this "sickness" in us. Some of us act out on it, the rest of us don't. The people who act out on the "sickness" is what we classify as bullies
 Normally bullies act out on jealousy and because they feel threatened by the person they are picking on, so they seek out that person's weakness and start using that against them.  The sickness could be a couple of things- their jealousy, or somewhere else they are being bullied.

Thirdly- This person who is victimizing you is never ever EVER going to change their ways unless they are put into a situation which is going to force them to change and come back down to Earth. At the moment- for them, it's about dominance, and how badly they can make you feel about yourself, and how low they can hit and kick you to the ground. For them- the lower you are on the heirarchy, the better, and I can promise you that it isn't going to get better. Eventually you are going to start doubting yourself- if this hasn't happened yet, and if you're reading this- it most probably has and you are looking for answers.

Now, with this in mind- take a look at yourself. You are beautiful, and you are smart, and unique. You have a unique personality, and you are you. Nothing ANYONE else ever says is ever going to change that.

You are strong to have made it this far without help- but just keep in mind that sometimes you need to be strong enough to ask for help.

Why?

Because firstly- this person is "sick" and does need help. So by asking for help for yourself, you are getting help for this person too and the other people that this person is victimizing, and in the long run- you will actually be helping them. This is an act of love, not fear. Maybe it's a situation where you would be kinder by telling someone than to just let it go.

Secondly- This person will continue doing what they're doing because you're too nice to want to hurt them. But beneath it all, they're still the alpha- and will remain an alpha until someone starts to fight back, but by then it might be too late unless you do something about it now.

So there are three ways you can do this:
Either you can retaliate directly, and go at this person and get your hands dirty (no, don't fight physically unless they hit first), but I suggest avoiding a situation like that at all costs- because the world has enough conflict as it is- or you can get an adult involved who can help you.
Otherwise just ignore this person and avoid them completely until it dies down- if it doesn't though, tell someone and get this person gone.

Look at your situation:

• Is this person influencing you positively? 
• Are they boosting your self-confidence in any way? 
• Are they helping you at all? 

If this person is doing nothing for you except hurting you, then it's high time you get rid of them.

xo'xo
The Glitch

Don't be that guy.. or girl... don't be that person!

Okay! So THIS is one of the things that irritates me the most- ATTENTION SEEKERS!

"I'm forever alone"- on Facebook, or "Nobody loves me"... Really? If no one loved you, you wouldn't be around. Your parents love you, and I'm pretty sure that your friends like you a whole lot! If a person speaks to you, it means that they like you... unless they're saying mean things... but I'm sure you understand what I mean.

Don't be that person who is always feeling sorry for themselves... that drives people away! Instead- try the positive approach and be happy with what you have and who you are- after all- your own choices have turned you into the person you've become by now.

Just remember- you always have a choice, and there will be consequences to each choice you make, so choose the one with the least consequences and you'll live a happier life.

xo'xo
The Glitch

Friendship

I am a youngest child, and I know for a fact that I get away with a lot more than what my sister did as a child. For example, she used to look after me when my mom was busy, and she would have to play with me even if she didn't want to, otherwise she would get into trouble.

Nicky and I

Being the youngest, I was quite a brat, always demanding everything I wanted and arguing, and saying "But Nicky can do it!", never thinking about the fact that my sister was older, and that's why she was allowed to do things that I couldn't do- like go to the movies with her friends.

My parents made a rule at one stage that if one of us had to go somewhere, the other had to go. This to me was very unfair, because my friends always seemed to get along better with my sister, and by the end of the day when they would come and visit, they would be hanging out with my sister, and not with me- regardless of who they were visiting. It made me feel very belittled and upset, because if I wanted to hang out with my sister's friends she would never let me, but she would bully her way into my own friendships.

When I was ten I figured it was better not having friends, because my sister would just take them away anyway- so I stopped inviting people over, and I stopped going to friends. When I did go to friends I didn't go back, because I felt like they didn't like me, so every time they asked, I would say that my mom said no, even if I didn't ask her if I could go.

It was only in this year that I started making friends again and actually wanting to go to my friends and invite them over. Unfortunately this holiday I wasn't able because I was so busy.

I'm grateful for my sister, because she was always there to protect me- even if she did 'steal' my friends away, and even though sometimes I feel like I can never be as good as her, she told me that I need to start accepting myself for who I am, and if I do that, other people will too, and this proved to be true. This was when I realized I had a friend all along- my sister.

I started accepting myself now, and working towards bettering myself physically and in my personality, and I've created goals for myself. Now that I'm striving to become a better person, I'm finding it easier to make friends and figure out the type of people I want to be friends with.

People are associated with the type of people they hang out with, and although it isn't always ideal (especially for teenagers) to hang out with nerds, I prefer it. But I don't just stick to one particular group of people, instead I try and be nice to everyone I come across, keeping an open mind and accepting them for who they are and I find that people like me more than when I used to be nice to only one particular group of people.

Point is- even though it's hard to make friends, try being nice to everyone and gain your friends that way.

xo'xo
The Glitch

Gaming

Gaming is a big part of my life, when I'm not at school and not doing homework, I'm gaming.

Normally I enjoy MMORPG's like WoW and Rift, and simulations like Sims (I'm a total Sims addict, I had all of the Sims 1 at one stage, then all of the Sims 2 except the last one, and now I have most of the Sims 3, so I'm pretty stoked with The Sims 4 being released in 2014).

My main console is my laptop, weird right? Maybe not, but I enjoy being comfortable. Xbox confuses me anyway, and Wii? I don't like the graphics. I have a Playstation 2 that I never ever ever use, partly because I get bored very easily, and partly because it's a lot of effort to take it out and pack it away every time I want to use it. I'm very lazy so I just don't use it.

I'm a nocturnal gamer, so to stay awake at night I like to listen to music with a good beat-

so here's my gaming playlist:
1. Rage against the Machine- Fistful of Steel
2. Black Veil Brides- In the End
3. Amaranthe- Burn with me
4. Asking Alexandria- The final Episode
5. Avenged Sevenfold- Nightmare
6. Breaking Benjamin- I will not bow
7. Killswitch Engage- My Curse
8. Motionless in White- Abigail
10. Get Scared- Problematic
11. Her Bright Skies- Ghosts of the Attic
12. Nightwish- Nemo
13. Oh, Sleeper- The Pitch
14. Nirvana- Smells Like Teen Spirit
15. AC/DC - Thunderstruck
16. Survivor- Eye of the Tiger
17. The Word Alive- Life Cycles
18. White Widow- Reprobate Romance
19. Seether- FMLYHM
20. The Death Note opening theme song for the first few episodes up until "L" dies...
21- to the rest. These are the ones that become really upbeat and then mellow and then the entire playlist replays until I get tired and decide to go to bed.

Anyway! I'm off to go do things and watch things on Youtube and waste away eating junkfood, leave your comments below as to what you listen to when you game!

xo'xo
The Glitch

Manipulation

People like me are so easily trusting, and don't really know how to say no, so all of you easily manipulated people out there- say it with me.. "N-O" . 

A lot of the time teenagers want to be exactly like their peers, so when someone offers you whatever they're having, you're more likely to say yes. The problem with that is that it might be something really bad for you, like drugs, and you could end up dead, and all of that is conveniently forgotten when trying to fit in- because being "awesome" is pretty much all that matters to society, and that is so wrong!

I say that you always have to look at the pros and cons in a situation before giving in and saying yes- because to every choice there will be consequences, just choose the choice with the least consequences and you should be fine.

Fitting in isn't what should matter to us, what ought to matter is finding out who we are and showing that beautiful side of us to the world, because after all- if we were all the same, and drugged up, or all alcoholics, it could become pretty boring... and no, I'm not saying "Don't drink", I'm saying "don't drink and drive!" but yes, I'm saying no to drugs... it's a waste of money anyway because you get a high and then hit a low... rather buy a ton of coffee and game all night!!

That's it though, look at the consequences and what a situation can do to improve your life before making a decision.

xo'xo

The Glitch

Metalheads out there!

Okay- so this is probably what I have to deal with most of the time... I like heavy metal... really, I do, and of course a lot of people see this as unacceptable according to their 'norms', but this is what I have to say about it- screw your norms... I believe that what other people think is 'normal' according to society, doesn't always mean that you will be happy.

Being 'normal' will eventually leave a world full of clones and honestly- the thought alone scares the hell out of me! Individualism was created so that we could all be different, so why are we trying so hard to change each other to suit ourselves? Can't we all just get along?

Why should we all be normal if we can just wake up being satisfied as ourselves? Salvador Dali said the best thing that opened my eyes to that reality: "Each morning when I awake, I experience again a supreme pleasure- that of being Salvador Dali." - uh, yeah, this guy was nuts, but what he said really makes sense to me as a person.

A song from Motionless in White says it very well : "open your mind before you open your mouth"

It doesn't matter what people look like, or how they act, it doesn't matter if their hair is black, or blue or blond or brown or red... people are all made of the same stuff- bones, blood, organs, skin and hair. So deal with it... And no; I'm not saying that the people who listen to pop music or classical or trance, club, or any of the other genres are wrong- because I listen to all of it. I'm just saying don't judge according to a person's music taste- I mean, who knows, that person you're calling a fag because he dyes his hair black could be a really nice guy.

Think before you speak, and always start with yourself, and you'll see that slowly the world around you will begin to change.

Feel free to leave your comments below, and discuss this as well- your input would be really appreciated.

xo'xo
The Glitch

Hey there!!

Okay! So I finally decided to create a blog that will actually make sense!

This blog is called "The Glitch" , because "glitch" is the word that is used to describe a fault in a system, normally computer related, but I wanted to create a play on the word, and knowing this- I realized a lot of teenagers feel like they are never good enough, and I wanted to make a blog to show you, the person reading this, that even though you might see yourself as a "glitch", you can still take that flaw and use it to your advantage.

The blog isn't going to be completely just on life advice though, it's also going to be on a lot of nerdy things like gaming and computers, as well as social networking and all those other things that involve the internet and teenage life.

So sit back, relax, and read to your heart's delight... maybe I'll achieve by helping you a bit <3

xo'xo
The Glitch